desthi

Tell a girl she's beautiful a million times, and she'll never believe you. Call her ugly once, and she'll never forget it. -- @CauseWereGirls True.  But I never think that when a specific person tell that you're ugly is going to impact so much. And I'm struggling with self-deprecation.  Damn.  I never thought that I'm actually going to struggle with my self-esteem. I have high self-esteem. Even my mum said that she's afraid that I'm going to be cocky when I grew up one day, since she saw me that I'm an over-confident little baby girl.. *sigh*  I really need a lot of times to upgrade myself right now.

I met  Kei Savourie  yesterday. No, not just met. I kinda insist to see him between his schedule in Surabaya, actually.. And Kei is the master of heart broke healing *seenaknya bikin julukan* :p Pengennya sih curhat, sambil nangis-nangis kalo bisa, tapi begitu sudah ketemu, ga bisa..  I don't know why, I just can't tell him the reason why I think I should end my relationship, so I can have the right advice..  Since an advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer but wish you didn't, right? 

I have great friends. A fabulous support system. When you feel so devastated and can't even think about anything, just contact your friends. Bunches of them. The more the merrier. Anything that helps you to keep on active and smile (even when it fakes one) because once you give yourself an idle time you'll starting back repeating the why questions. So thank you girls and guys for accompanying me. Thank you for not asking questions and just be there for having fun together. :)

Face other people, act like nothing happens, and keep put smiles on my face all day long is a cup cake. Being alone at night is the hardest part. Right few moments before go to bed, when everything just rush back in. Memories. The happy memories that I miss, that I yearn to feel again. Then the questions. When I start ask myself what did I do wrong; why it's not working; why I'm even start this relationship. And start imagining how if I do everything a little bit different. Who knows it will turn out all right.

How do you feel after ending a relationship? Mine, somehow it's relieving.. But it still hurts. So much. I'm on an up-and-down, on-and-off, long-distance-relationship for around a year. And in the end, even it's hard, I have to admit that I'm having a shallow, imbalance, unhealthy relationship. There are times when it feels really, really good, but there are times when it's just drop dead cold. When the cold era comes I can't stop repeating questions to myself; why's he doing this; why's he doing that; why's it seem so hard for him to start conversation or share anything; does he miss me; does he really love me.. Crap.. I'm not even sure how to describe what love is.. I'm in doubt. When I'm in doubt I start to assume and usually it leads to me crying on my pillow till fall asleep. But even it's tiring I don't have a gut to ask my questions to him. So I stick to the assume routine and the late night crying. It's f...

Sekarang nih, dt masih di kantor. Untuk pertama kalinya ngelembur sampe lewat jam enam malem. Ceritanya nih, selama kurang dari tiga bulan dt kerja di tempat kerja dt sekarang, sudah tiga orang yang jadi PIC (Person in Charge). Yang pertama, namanya mbak Tanti, yang resign karena kudu ngikut suaminya pindah tugas ke Kupang. Yang kedua, namanya mbak Daniyar, yang resign karena ga tahan dengan pressure kerjaan. Dan yang ketiga ini namanya mbak Yeyo, yang belum ada sebulan jadi PIC dan semoga bertahan. Ngerasa sih kalo posisi PIC di kantor dt mirip kek posisi Guru PTIH di Hogwarts pas jaman Harry Potter? Ga ada yang bertahan lebih dari setahun. Bahkan katanya, PIC sebelum mbak Tanti pun cuma setahun kurang sedikit. Keknya posisi ini emang makan tumbal ya.. Hot seat.. Yang duduk di sana ga bisa lama saking panasnya itu tempat duduk. Nah, sebenernya sih dt ga ngelembur. dt cuma nemenin mbak Yeyo yang ga berani sendirian di kantor. Konon katanya sih, ini kantor udah ada penunggunya lo....

Yak, lagi-lagi dt vacuum ngeblog.. *ketawa mengenaskan* Sudah tiga bulan lebih dt ga ngeblog, dan beberapa hal yang terjadi selama tiga bulan ini. I get a job, as a trainer. Tahu sih agak melenceng dari jurusan waktu dt kuliah dulu. But i enjoy it. Dan sepertinya dt bisa lihat arah karir dt ke sebelah mana. Jadi tempat kerja dt adalah sebuah agensi SPG sebuah perusahaan susu multinasional yang sudah tersohor di Indonesia (halah :p). Ngarepnya sih, perusahaan itu bakal ngelirik dan ngerekrut dt dalam waktu dua tahun. Tapi kalau dalam dua tahun ga ada perkembangan yang menurut dt cukup pesat, mungkin dt bakal bertahan setahun lagi sambil cari opsi pekerjaan lain.. I get a partner, either. Dari dunia maya. Yang jelas mama setengah hati dengernya. Emang sih ga ada hujatan atau penolakan, tapi dt ngerasa kalau mama ga sreg saat tahu partner dt itu dt temuin di dunia maya. Mungkin mama takut dt jadi korban penipuan kek di tipi-tipi itu.. Selama itu terjadi beberapa drama yang bisa dt...